Understanding the Brain: Unlocking Social and Emotional Intelligence
I recently had the chance to dive deep into the world of neurobiology, guided by the amazing work of neuroscientist Dan Goleman. As part of my journey towards earning a Master’s degree in Transformational Leadership and Coaching at Maharishi International University, I explored how neurobiology intertwines with social and emotional intelligence. This experience was eye-opening; here are the highlights.
The Neuroscience Behind Social Intelligence
In a fascinating paper published in the Harvard Business Review, Dan Goleman and Richard Boyatzis define social intelligence as "a set of interpersonal competencies built on specific neural circuits (and related endocrine system) that inspire others to be effective." This means our brain is wired in certain ways that help us connect, empathize, and collaborate with others effectively.
Goleman highlights three key types of neurons crucial for social interaction: mirror neurons, spindle cells, and oscillators. Each of these neurons plays a unique role:
Mirror Neurons: These fire when we observe someone else's actions or emotions, allowing us to empathize and learn from others.
Spindle Cells: Known for making numerous connections quickly, these neurons help in making intuitive decisions.
Oscillators: These help synchronize our movements with others, crucial for activities requiring coordination.
These neurons are primarily found in the neocortex, or the frontal lobe, which is the part of the brain responsible for higher-order functions like decision-making and abstract thought.
The Emergence Coaching Approach
One of my biggest takeaways from this study is how emergence coaching can physically change our brain through the practice of social and emotional intelligence. By engaging in novel, intentional, and repeatable exercises that push us out of our comfort zones, we can leverage brain plasticity to grow. This means that through deep practice, we can enhance the neural circuits and increase the variety and number of neurons in our brain.
Playing with Purpose
As an artist and someone who loves to engage with others, I find this incredibly exciting. These brain structures are the tools that enable us to engage in meaningful and high-quality interactions. Whether it's collaborating on a project or simply enjoying time with friends, these neurons are at work, ensuring we can connect deeply and authentically.
The Neocortex: Our Social Intelligence Hub
The neocortex is where the magic happens. This part of our brain has evolved to be the seat of abstract thought and decision-making. It bridges the gap between our primary emotional system and our social environment, making it the hub of social intelligence.
Dr. Judith Wright, master teacher, coach, and author, often talks about what to do when we’ve ‘flipped our lid’ – when our emotions become overwhelming. By soothing ourselves, we can bring brain activity back to the neocortex, allowing for more nuanced and effective responses. This process of self-soothing means we can manage our emotions better and make more sophisticated choices.
Practical Applications
In my work as a coach and artist, I often encounter situations where managing emotions is crucial. For example, one of my clients struggles with explosive anger at work. By becoming aware of his emotional hijacks, taking a breath, and making conscious decisions about his responses, he’s working on improving his social and emotional intelligence. This approach is grounded in the physical structures of our brain, thanks to the work of Dan Goleman and others.
Conclusion
Understanding the brain's role in social and emotional intelligence gives us powerful tools to enhance our personal and professional lives. By practicing social and emotional intelligence, we can literally rewire our brains, creating new and better ways to interact with the world. This journey is not just psychological or philosophical; it's deeply rooted in the physical structures of our bodies.
References:
Goleman, Daniel, and Richard Boyatzis. “Social Intelligence and the Biology of Leadership.” Harvard Business Review (September 2008). Accessed January 13, 2021. Link.
Goleman, Daniel. Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More than IQ. New York, NY: Bantam, 1995.
Wright, Judith, and Bob Wright. The Heart of the Fight: A Couple's Guide to 15 Common Fights, What They Really Mean, & How They Can Bring You Closer. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2016.
